Meet Robin
It is so nice to meet you! I'm Robin Piccolo-Scarpetta. I, like many of you, have had my fair share of challenges that have ultimately led me here. This seems to be the path for many healing and well-being practitioners - almost like a right of passage...in order to understand it - like really understand it - you need to know how emotional injury, often as result deeply hurtful relationships, can feel at a cellular level. These experiences CHANGE YOU.
The good news is, that this CHANGE can ignite the most remarkable and transformative process. Trust me. I've walked this path and am still committed to healing. Trust all the others that have walked this path before even we did. These experiences are only 'part' of our stories. What I want you understand is this 'part' does not define, but will be used to strengthen, inform, to love the real you back into existence from our limiting beliefs we unknowingly created as a way of protecting ourselves in our relationships.
My work focuses not only on building capacity and strength, but how your connection to yourself can then be used to create stronger, more meaningful and healthier connections in your relationships - whether it be intimate relationships, friends, family or with yourself.
My coaching practice is trauma-informed and somatic-informed. I deeply believe that no two individuals are the same, and neither should their coaching experience be. Rather than applying a one-size-fits-all approach, I commit to tailoring our journey to align with your unique needs, goals, and circumstances through presence and adaptability.
Relationships are hard, I know. And complicated. Together, we’ll create a space that honors you, embraces your strengths, and adapts as you grow and learn new ways of being, ensuring the coaching process remains authentic, effective, and truly yours and usable as you navigate your pilgrimage.
I Walk With You
Stories connect us. We learn from them. We learn from others' stories because they can validate our own experiences and make us feel a little less alone, especially when things are difficult. They can make us feel seen, heard and understood.
I'm here to tell you that I know this path too. My story probably shares similarities to yours in some way. I also was looking to heal and move forward. It began much earlier than I even realized. I carried the weight of an extremely unhealthy relationship with my caregivers that deeply shaped my understanding of the world and myself. Part of this relationship was unpredictable in nature which kept me walking on eggshells most of the time. Unconsciously, my view of relationships began to change. I thought all relationships were supposed to be like 'this' - hard, riddled in conflict, neglect, avoidance, fearful in nature and that abandonment was inevitable. I felt I deserved to be punished and that having to fight and prove I was loveable was, well, 'just the way the world worked.' This distortion affected most of my relationships for YEARS. The way I treated myself, the way I treated others, the way I let others treat me...all impacted. No relationship was safe to me - myself, friendships, intimate relationships and especially family relationships. Fast-forward I left home to go to university and although I studied very hard, I partied hard too. Often I would find myself drinking excessively for days just to not experience hangovers. I found myself becoming 'internally' angry and highly competitive with classmates over grades, often overworking myself and trying to people-please. My reward? Unloading by binge drinking. And the cycle starts again. Now into adulthood, a bunch of toxic relationships rooted in constant fawning, a divorce, still drinking much more than I wanted to openly admit, jobs that would literally suck me dry, a relationship that I was 'slowly' sabotaging and BOOM. It happened. The collapse. I didn't know what was happening to me. I felt broken beyond repair. Darkness. A hole so deep, I couldn't even fathom what it would have been like to see the light again. Dying.
Little did I know that the years of layered relational trauma, generational trauma, conflict would have been the biggest gift I could experience. My husband, I don't know why or how, got me to see in my completely disconnected state that I had so much more to live for. There was a small part of me, deep in the darkness that recognized that this relationship is what true loving relationships were made of - that I was lied to for years, by myself and all the others I threw myself in front of. That he was not my enemy. That he cared for me when I couldn't care for myself. He loved me when I didn't even know how to love myself. The fact that he, even in my darkest hour, was able to love me and be my cheerleader started showing me that I had to examine what led me to this point. It compelled me to look at my pain and suffering differently - not as a curse, but a message. That message ultimate led me on my healing path and helped me understand how our connections and relationships with others and the self are the heart of a meaningful and enriched life. They can provide us with a sense of belonging, love, and support, reminding us that we are not alone in our experiences. Healthy relationships share joys, navigate challenges and help us grow in ways we often cannot achieve on our own. Healthy relationships encourage us to reflect on who we are, challenge us to be better, and offer opportunities for collaboration and shared purpose. In essence, the bonds we form with ourself and others give life its vibrancy, teaching us the value of connection, trust, and shared humanity. This is what my pain and my invested partner taught me. This is what I would like to teach you.
Qualifications, Experience & Training:
Choosing the right coach to work with for your circumstance can be confusing, overwhelming and difficult. Especially if you are in a state of distress. I know, I've been there too. To make it even more challenging, there are a LOT of coaches offering similar services. My wish is to make it easier for you to choose if I am the right person for you. Not only have I had lived experience with difficult relationships resulting in a re-discovery of my 'self,' I have also dedicated serious time to understanding, practicing and learning at a deep level how connections and relationships can either help or hinder the healing process. Since my initial coach education, I have worked with a few hundred people, helping them navigate similar challenges. I have extensive training in various areas of therapeutic modalities that I use to inform my coaching practice. Please note, I am not a licensed therapist. I am an extensively trained ICF credentialled coach. There is a difference - if you wish to delve into the differences, please check out the FAQ section to help understand what kind of practitioner would best suit your needs.
*All of the above Training and Qualifications are being used for IFC ACC Application Credential
The ABC's of Coaching
A LOT (and I mean a lot) of people struggle with the difference between coaching and therapy. We operate in the same space - there are coaches, there are therapists, some therapists are coaches... It can be quite bewildering. I'm hoping this section will provide some clarity, because at this point in your journey, clarity is hugely important. Coaching is all about helping people bridge the gap between where they are now (<-key word alert) and where they want to be. Notice that coaching is rooted in the here and now - the 'present moment' and what is showing up for you now - and gently moves towards the future, a vision or a goal. It’s a process of support, guidance, compassion, encouragement, and accountability that empowers you to set meaningful goals, overcome obstacles, and move forward. Unlike therapy, which often focuses on digging around extensively in the past, coaching is forward-focused. It can help people realize where they are now and with the assistance of a skilled coach, to create a plan and take action to build the life they truly want.
This Is My Approach
Together, we recognize that the past, whether recent or years ago, has had an impact on where you are now. This is important. We allow the past to be there - we cannot change it. We focus on our current experience in the present and we embrace it. Even if it is hard. And while we are in our present moment, we feel all the feels (even the ick) while we work towards the future.
I can ask you thought provoking questions and challenge you. I can listen. I can support and advise. I can guide and mentor. I can create action plans and be your accountability partner. I can help you work towards your goals and motivate you. I can provide insight and clarity. I can be a catalyst for transformation. I can refer you to other professionals or contacts if you so choose. I can educate, instruct or teach. I can help problem-solve and share my knowledge on certain modalities. I can administer and debrief psychometrics.
What I CAN Do:
I cannot treat (by means of therapy) or diagnose disorders. On the CRPO website it states: The Regulated Health Professions Act, 1991 sets out 14 controlled acts that are inherently risky and should only be performed by a properly qualified professional to ensure client/patient safety. The controlled act of psychotherapy is one of these legally restricted acts. It is defined as:
Treating, by means of psychotherapy technique, delivered through a therapeutic relationship, an individual’s serious disorder of thought, cognition, mood, emotional regulation, perception or memory that may seriously impair the individual’s judgement, insight, behaviour, communication or social functioning.
What I CAN'T Do:
Why Coach for Relationship Health & Well-being?
Our connections and relationships with others are the heart of a meaningful and enriched life. They provide us with a sense of belonging, love, and support, reminding us that we are not alone in our experiences. Through relationships, we share joys, navigate challenges, and grow in ways we often cannot achieve on our own. The diversity of perspectives and experiences in our connections broadens our understanding of the world, encourage us to reflect on who we are, and challenges us to be better versions of ourselves. It also gives us a renewed sense of self and how we can share our spirit and energy with others through love and compassion.
By examining your "why" together – whether it be a relationship why or a self why – the kind of relational coaching we will embark on will by guide you to explore your deepest values, beliefs, and motivations. Through thoughtful questions, active listening, and a supportive environment, our work will encourage self-reflection and clarity about what truly drives you, your patterns and habits and what you are bringing into your daily interactions.
We have all been touched by traumatic wounds. No one is immune. It shows up in many different ways - and more than you can imagine. When we understand what 'trauma' is and how it can manifest, it can give us useful insights on how to work 'with' it, as opposed to against it. Carefully listening and being with our injuries can paradoxically guide us to health.
Healing is often not what most people would think. It is a fine dance of back and forth, that can feel like an ongoing and somewhat exhausting journey. Moving forward from emotional impacts does not heal like a cut on our hand. Learn about common patterns in the healing process so you know that even small steps are getting you closer to your goal, without becoming discouraged.
Attachment theory explores the way early relationships shape how we connect with others throughout life. These styles influence how we form bonds, manage conflict, and experience intimacy in relationships. Understanding attachments helps us recognize patterns in our relationships, offering insights that promote healing, growth, and deeper connections with others.
Your biggest crisis can become your biggest gift. It can be our compass in finding meaning and strength in the aftermath of challenging life events. This kind of growth often manifests as a deeper appreciation for life, improved relationships, increased resilience, and a sense of purpose. It highlights the human capacity to transform pain into opportunities for self-discovery and empowerment.
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